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Are we moving forward or backward?

God created all creatures equal. He did not send any instructions tucked away in the collar of Adam and Eve on how each should be treated in this world. He did not send any documents signed with His almighty seal prescribing the way one should regard the other. Then where do I ask did these holy scripture come from? These extremely biased scriptures which define the roles and rules governing men and women!

Every other day we hear of some or the other holy governing body slapping some fine or punishment for women doing something or the other. One country says you wear a burqa or you are killed, another country says wearing burqa not allowed. One says elementary education is compulsory and a right for all children, irrespective of caste and religion while another says girls should stay indoors and not meet any boys whatsoever.

The recent fatwa against women working in public/private companies where they come in direct contact with men is just outrageous! In a day and age where women all over the world are learning and gearing up to be more and more independent this comes as a solid blow. While the educated crust of the Muslim society may go unscathed, this new madness is going to cause some serious and long lasting scars on the growth of Muslim women.

One fine day, some old men sitting idle with nothing to do but meddle in the ways of the world decide that women are in serious danger of offending god if they as much as talk to men!!! What age is this??? Why suddenly? Where were they all this while and how come no one saw this directive until today? And why is there never a fatwa governing men or telling them not to beat their wives, or have innumerable children or take more than one wife? I want to ask is there no way we can stop these mad men from ruling and ruining the lives of millions of women all over the world? Is there no way that the entire population of this world can tell these handful of madmen to shut up and mind their own business?

I guess that’s not the way it works. We live in a world where words like ‘equality’ and ‘freedom’ are used at people’s convenience. When people in power have an agenda to push they start talking about equality – of casts, colour, gender – and freedom of men and women. Once their interests are met no one has the time to look who they have wounded and how!


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Purani Jeans…

Today I feel like going down the lanes of my Delhi university campus. I still remember how the beautiful and evergreen campus comes alive during this season. I have spent 3 beautiful monsoons there and can never forget the beautiful walks down the campus lanes in the season. I remember my first year. The colleges had just started (they start usually around July 15th) right in the middle of the rainy season. We would sit in the college campus under those huge trees that speard themselves tall & wide, have hot tea from the canteen and spend hours chatting, talking, watching people and doing basically nothing!  This was the first time I was enjoying the rainy season…


We would go visiting our friends in other colleges which are never more than a pleasant walk apart from one another. I loved to walk down to my bus stop outside the Khalsa college…which was quite a long walk (from Hansraj to Khalsa). I would have my regular stops in between – the D-school chaiwalla, the Law Faculty chaiwalla, the aloo-chaat walla, the ice-cream walla outside Miranda College…It would take me nearly an hour to reach my bus stop.  I remember climbing on trees in D-school and there was one in Hansraj, behind the photostat guy…which I climbed on with my friends from the dram-soc while our scripts were getting xeroxed. That’s where I wuld climb and tease my then boyfriend (now my husband) who would be sitting in his class trying hard to concentrate 😉


I remember my first outstation trip with friends…it was to IIT Kanpur for their annual festival – Antragini. It was just awesome…3 days of complete freedom for the first time in my life and I enjoyed every moment of it…not to mention the festival itself too 🙂 and I felt that nothing could top this…but that was before my visit to BITTS Pilani. I went there in my 2nd year.


Those 5 days in Pilani were like being on a different planet altogether…a planet where only the youth resided, a planet that had no parents, no deadlines, no assignments, no restrictions…it was a heady mix of fun, freedom and youth!!! I had some of the most memorable times there…ones that I am not likely to forgte in this lifetime.


3rd year dawned with the usual uncertainity about studies, careers, friednships, relationships. Preparing for MBA entrance, coz everyone seemd to be doing so…not that i cleared any, applying to various PG colleges, talking to seniors, professors, anyone who could give us some guidance about what should be the best course to follow. The uncertainity was too much. Then came the bittersweet memories of parting with friends, partying hard together one last time so that the memories never fade, the goodbyes and promises to keep in touch. I was sad coz I was losing a lot of my friends, excited coz I was curious what life had in store for me, wary coz I was not sure if the path I had chose was the right one for me…but I knew I’d be fine coz I had learned to take care of myself.


Its been 7 years since that last day. Today I have a family of my own, a promising job (my chosen path turned out to be the right one for me), a good bunch of those old pals who I am still in touch with. When I look back now, I know I will never forget those days…they are tucked soundly in my memories for ready reference whenever I feel like visiting those lanes again…

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Posted by on June 24, 2009 in Feelings, friends, Memories


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