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Sid is a Star!

Hey everyone!

 

Want to share some great news! My son’s blog www.siddipolis.wordpress.com got featured in Top 5 Children Bloggers: Meet The Kids Who Make The Difference. So proud of my little darling. He has come a long way from the first time we initiated this with him.

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We started last January, with him writing a simple journal – a minimum of 5 lines everyday. Initially it was a bit of a struggle as he would not know what to write about. Children are like sponges. They just soak, soak and soak experiences their every waking moment. It was an interesting journey to help him learn how to squeeze out some of that and express them into words. He drew adorable doodles to accompany his small accounts of some prank or some game he played with his friends. With little nudge and guidance, he flourished.

 

It gives me so much pleasure to see people visiting his blogs and reading about his experiences. I recommend all parents to inculcate this in their young ones. Here are some tips on how to get them started and help them along the way that I have learned –

  1. Start small – start with a simple journal which captures what happened during the day. This helps them write about something they know very well. Their friends, their class, some project they did in school, anything. As long as they write its good.
  2. Make time to read – After the child has written a journal make it a point to read it and suggest corrections. It is important for them that you read that they have put in an effort to write. Make it a point to sit with your child and read what they have penned down. If they feel you do not have time to read what they are writing they may not find it worth the effort and start seeing it as a chore.
  3. Appreciate – Give them small encouragements as you go along. Appreciate the fact that they wrote – no matter how small or how silly the journal is. Then follow it up with suggestions to make it better.
  4. Don’t over correct – While it is important to help them with the correct spellings and grammar and even sometimes on how to express something better. But be careful. You don’t want them to feel they are not doing a good job. Also, let them write in their own style and over time when they improve you can show them their older pieces and show how far they have come by being a regular writer.
  5. Respect their right to privacy – Kids are also not comfortable sharing their feelings with everyone. So do not share their journals / blogs without their permission.
  6. Encourage reading – Introduce your child to blogs by other children and on topics that they like. Use these blogs to suggest ways to make their’s better.
  7. Insist upon being regular – Instil the importance of being regular right from the beginning. Make it clear that it is non-negotiable. If not a big post / journal make sure they write some thing.
 
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Posted by on April 29, 2016 in Love, Siddharth

 

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Being a Parent

I learned today the true meaning of being a parent…or maybe not. I’m also scared of what else this role of being a parent has in store for me. Because if this was not the worst…I shiver to think what else there is!

As a child I was very demanding…I needed my mom 24×7. When I woke up in the morning, when I came back from school, when I wanted to eat something, when I woke up from my afternoon nap, when I came back in the evening after play and when I went to bed at night…like I said 24×7! And she gave it all…she was there for me…and my two sisters. Today I am a mother myself, have my own set of challenges, priorities, needs, responsibilities and duties. And I find myself torn…torn between all of the above and giving my child what my mom gave me – her complete selfless devotion.

It is so difficult to find the right balance between loving and pampering, between suggesting and spoon feeding, between supporting and handholding. If I spend too much time with him he becomes too clingy, if I keep him away from myself I’m betraying his trust and letting him down. If I let him have his way I’m making him stubborn, if I’m firm with him I’m curbing his spirit.

A bird looks after her eggs till they hatch, feeds her little ones till they learn to fly and then forgets about them for the rest of her life…so do most of other animals and creatures in this world. Then why did God made us differently? Why did he not give us the strength to make our children independent and leave them to face the world on their own?

I hope I have the insight and understanding to give him everything he needs and yet teach him the value of what he has. For this I have to learn a few lessons like letting him go, letting him fall and pick himself up. I need to detach myself and play the role of a third person who is not his mom but a mentor, be firm yet kind, punish and reward at the same time.

I’m so scared!

 
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Posted by on April 16, 2010 in Daily Life, Feelings, Love

 

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The child in us!

Growing up is inevitable. As we grow we see a new life, meet new people, form new relationships while old relationships change. Our circle of life expands to include people who we sometimes conciously and sometimes unconciously select to take with us in our journey.

As grown ups we don’t jump in joy over a water bubble, as grown ups we don’t trail behind the toy train, as grown ups we don’t hit and get hit back by the Hit-me that’s double our size, as grown ups we don’t dance around the clapping joker.

 

While we add more and more people to our life we leave behind a very important person who was a part our very being. The one who made us laugh out loud without hesitation, the one who made us climb trees without fear, the one who made us cry without embarrassment. We grow apart from the one who shaped us into what we are today…the child in us.

 

But a chance encounter with this child can bring back so many memories, moist, bitter sweet memories that you never want to let go of that child again. I saw the child in my husband today.  

 

As he selected toys for our 1.5 year old son, I saw the child in him select all the toys that he wanted to buy so many years ago in that old toy store back in his home town. I could see the wonder in his eyes as he gazed with wonder at the dancing elephant, the colourful car, the giant Hit-Me and all the new toys. I could see his need to buy a train set that his dad had bought for him when he was just a child himself, and I could still see that joy on his face when he told me all about how the penguins ran up and down the tracks on a Penguin Race game.

 

I know he wants to give all that his dad gave him and much much more. I know he will be the best dad any child could ever have because I know he is still in touch with the child within.

 

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Posted by on September 21, 2009 in Daily Life, Family, Love

 

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What is love?

Today I ask the eternal question

Please don’t answer without reflection

For it is different for each I know

Though cupid uses same arrow ‘n bow

Some say it is giving, or letting go

Love has only friends, knows no foe

To some it is forever a mystery

For some it is related to chemistry

What makes it happen no one knows

When hearts grow fonder, the feeling grows

 

When I found love, or when love found me

It consumed me, pampered me, tricked n cajoled me

Took me to heights I’d never known before

Excited me, challenged me, thrilled me to the core

I had no choice but to surrender

To a feeling so beautiful n so tender

I know I’m lucky to be blessed

Coz for some it’s a forever quest

 

But never give up on love, I’d say

Coz it will find you, on a bright, beautiful day

Your world will never be the same again

Love has no place for sorrow or pain

It’ll touch you when you’re least aware

Fill you with a warmth, oh! so rare

Just follow its lead, go with the flow

The secret is in giving control, letting go

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Posted by on August 7, 2009 in Feelings, Love

 

Its a mom!

I am a mother…I have a son who is 1.5 year old. When my son was born everyone rejoiced…Its a boy! While i silently said to my self…its a mom! because the birth of a child is also the birth of a mother.

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For the first 1-2 months all I could feel was the immense load of responsibility, lack of sleep, lack of peace, lack of space, pain in all parts of my body, fatigue …everything unpleasant. While I was happy to have a baby who was cuter than the word ‘cute’ could ever describe and more adorable than anyone could ever be, I was too consumed in the changes that he had brought in my life to notice that I was now a mother. As days passed by, and as I got adjusted to his demands and routine, I started to spend and actually enjoy sometime with him…but he was still just a cute baby who happened to be mine.

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Then with time he started to learn to focus his gaze and I would find his gaze following me wherever I went. It was crazy I told myself, how could a 3-month old baby know I was his mother, I mean there were others who loved him equally his father, his grandmom and others. But the following continued. Then came a time when he started reaching out with his hands…touching my face…smiling, frowning, and then gradually laughing his tiny baby laugh…he was resopnding…not just to anyone…just me. He seemed to be saying, “I know you, you are my mother. We have a special bond.” I felt it then, slowly and steadily the feeling creeped in and it found home in the deepest part of my being – I was a mother.

I was made to realise this by my son, my tiny, cute baby who can still hardly say 3-4 words but can convey his love and complete trust with his simple getsures. I love the way he hugs me tight when I meet him after a gap of even a few hours, I love the way he runs to me when I open my arms to him, I love the way he snuggles up to me when he is sleepy, and I love the way he…I guess I love just every thing about him. He’s not just a cute baby anymore…he is my son!

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Posted by on June 25, 2009 in Family, Feelings, Love

 

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